Showing posts with label Marriage and family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage and family. Show all posts

Friday, June 24, 2011

Obama: flip-flopping, hypocritical wuss

This just in: Barack Obama may not have really, really meant it when he claimed to oppose homosexual marriage: In this "Politico" story about the impending vote on homosexual "marriage" in NY:
President Barack Obama, at a Thursday fundraising stop in New York City, told a group of 600 gay and lesbian supporters that “gay and lesbian couples deserve the same legal rights as every other couple in this country” but stopped short of endorsing same-sex marriage.

Read more: http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0611/57738.html#ixzz1QFrBXLwb

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Interesting "predictors" of divorce . . .

"Unhappy Marriage: Signs you'll get divorced"; especially this one (sure counters conventional wisdom):
6. If you are currently married but have cohabited with a lover other than your current spouse, you are slightly more than twice as likely to divorce than someone who has never cohabited.

The same study by Ohio State University sociologists that produced this result also found that even those who cohabit only with their future spouses "are still 83 percent more likely to experience a marital disruption relative to those that did not cohabit prior to marriage." Cohabitation statistics are hot buttons, used by some pundits to decry premarital sex and "shacking up." A widely quoted 2003 study by Western Washington University sociologist Jay Teachman found that women who cohabit with anyone besides their future husbands face a raised divorce risk ranging from 55 to 166 percent, but that those who cohabit only with their future husbands face no elevated risk at all.

Anna M. Cunningham (2007): Premarital cohabitation and marital disruption across time: new results from the NSFH 3, paper delivered at the Population Association of America 2007 annual meeting.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Howe and why at Belmont University

As Belmont University seemingly beats a hasty retreat in the wake of parting ways with soccer coach Lisa Howe, ostensibly because Howe violated the university's morality policies (here), I thought this quote from Congressman Mike Pence (from a recent George Will op/ed) was pertinent:
You would not be able to print enough money in a thousand years to pay for the government you would need if the traditional family continues to collapse.
According to The City Paper, this is a "scandal." I don't think so. Belmont needs to stand by their policy, without regard to the cat calls from our culture's libertine left or squishy "center-right." There's no question that the Bible prohibits homosexual activity. Belmont may offend their biggest individual financial supporter. They may be swimming upstream against political correctness. They may lose a great soccer coach. But they needn't accept the premise that this or any other policies rooted in Judeo-Christian ethics are arbitrary or based in bigotry.

Thursday, July 02, 2009

Parody against homosexual adoption in NC?

Hey, did the Onion or Scrappleface dream up the child rape/incest case in Durham, NC? It is even more suspicious, given how little it is being covered by the MSM. This guy is the poster child for all the concerns that people have about endorsing adoption by folks who engage in homosexual activity.

According to the indictment:
On Monday, . . . Det. Timothy Palchak of the Washington Metropolitan Police Department, chatted online with a person using the name “F.L.” Palchak said “F.L.” described specific sex acts he had performed on a 5-year-old child and said that he lived in Durham.
. . .

[The perpetrator--Frank Lombard] is asked how he got access to a child so young. "Adopted," he replied, and said that the process was "not so hard ... esp (sic) for a black boy."

In the chat, "F.L.” told Palchak that abusing the child was "easier when he was too young to know what was happening and when he couldn't talk ...He had a little too much Benadryl. Was knocked out."


According to the report, the perp, who again is alleged to have performed sex acts on the child and offered the child to others for the same purpose, is "associate director of Duke's Center for Health Policy" and more specifically directs the "Health Inequalities Program" doing AIDS education -- which gives new meaning to the term "extension program."

But it gets even more cliche'd. I had never heard of a "co-housing" community, but the article gives some context:
Neighbors of Lombard had nothing to say about him Saturday to a reporter who visited Eno Commons, a co-housing community in north Durham.

Residents ordered the reporter to leave the neighborhood, which emphasizes communal life.

A roadblock with a "no trespassing" sign and a Subaru greeted visitors Saturday to Indigo Creek Trail, a private street in the 22-home neighborhood.

Co-housing communities allow residents have a say in the area's design, and they manage and maintain the community together. Decisions are made through consensus, and residents share common space.
Sounds like a corny, Liberal place, frankly. But the website highlights that people of all "affectional preferences" are welcome. And you gotta love the gay-friendliest make of car helping the neighborhood to circle the wagons of one of their own. Nice.

Thanks for the assist, Mr. Lombard!

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Sanford and Gosselin

I just watched a video of SC Governor Mark Sanford's press conference (here) and I have been following the "Jon & Kate" saga over the past few days, and I can only say that men, particularly husbands, are taking a bath.

It is painful to watch the mealy-mouthed statements of these guys about what they're doing or what they have done. Every country-fied or southernized phrase out of Sanford's mouth made my stomach hurt; it almost seemed like he was enjoying the attention at this press conference. He was too comfortable.

Jon Gosselin expressed his "sad[ness]" and "excite[ment]" in his first public statements (on Monday's Jon & Kate Plus 8 broadcast) about divorcing his wife and the mother of his children . . . he said he was "proud" that he was "finally standing on his own two feet" (whatever that means; though I doubt he meant to say he was hereafter proverbially paying his own freight).

It is so important that guys have someone in their lives--or will allow someone into their lives, who is willing to tell them uncomfortable truths. I need to be cultivating those types of relationships myself.

Friday, November 07, 2008

Vote your values! (and here's what they are)

Listening to Steve Gill in the car this a.m. I was intrigued to hear him assert that Californians didn't vote based on issues because a majority rejected homosexual marriage while a majority also supported Barack Obama. I think Steve is ignoring the reality that opposition to homosexuality can be an important issue to many voters (e.g., Blacks) even if it isn't the most important or decisive issue to said voters. Not to mention we shouldn't forget that both Obama and Biden repeatedly (and incredibly) claimed to be opposed to "gay marriage" during this campaign.

That being said, Jonah Goldberg has a salient op/ed today about the "Achilles heel" of Liberalism--that is non-pocketbook issues.
Behold the cultural contradictions of progressivism.

Barack Obama’s victory was a huge win for self-described progressives. Arguably the most liberal presidential nominee in American history, Obama has given some very old ideas an aura of new coolness. Congrats on all that. Hope it works out for you.
. . . .
But something interesting happened on Election Day that didn’t get much attention. Bans on gay marriage were on ballots in several states, and they all won. In fact, gay marriage bans have ultimately passed in all 30 of the states in which they were on the ballot.
. . . .
In other words, Obama had some major un-progressive coattails. The tidal wave of black and Hispanic voters who came out to support Obama voted in enormous numbers against what most white liberals consider to be the foremost civil rights issue of the day.

Put aside the substance of the gay marriage debate; what’s fascinating is how these returns expose the underlying weakness, or at least vulnerability, of progressivism.
Goldberg goes on to emphasize a point that I often think of as an inherent weakness of the Democratic Party (inherent inasmuch as the Democratic Party is based on Liberalism): that the Dems are a coalition party rather than a consensus party like the GOP.

In all candor, I'd posit that coalition politics--much moreso than consensus politics, contributes to the ugly, focus-groupish, sausage-making reputation and reality of contemporary politics. As Goldberg might say . . . good luck with that.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Senators O'Biden dressing as Conservatives for Halloween

Senators Biden and Obama have been working overtime to appear Conservative on a host of issues in the run up to the general election, and a great example of this masquerade is on the issue of homosexual/gay/same-sex "marriage."

A few weeks ago at the Vice Presidential debate Gov. Palin and Sen. Biden had this exchange with the debate moderator.

GOV. SARAH PALIN: ...I will tell Americans straight up that I don't support defining marriage as anything but between one man and one woman...I'm being as straight up with Americans as I can in my non-support for anything but a traditional definition of marriage...
IFILL: Let's try to avoid nuance, Senator. Do you support gay marriage?
BIDEN: No. Barack Obama nor I support redefining from a civil side what constitutes marriage. We do not support that.

But last week Biden told a reporter in Los Angeles that he opposes Proposition 8, California's marriage protection amendment. And yesterday on the "Ellen" show, Biden again stated, "If I lived in California, I'd clearly vote against Prop 8."

Now which is it, O'Biden?

Friday, July 18, 2008

Don't blame the Puritans . . .

There's a great article over at Nashville City Paper--"Just do it" by Lindsay Ferrier, regarding the challenge of intimacy between husband and wife after children join the family.

Ferrier provides a great perspective on the issue, with one exception . . . Ferrier insinuates that "Victorian" or "Puritanical" values in American society are somehow to blame. Ferrier writes:
It doesn’t help matters that society isn’t exactly encouraging my mommy self to put on stiletto heels and channel my inner sex kitten. American mothers are expected to take on the persona of a woman entirely preoccupied with disinfecting her kitchen counters and baking the perfect cupcake, in addition to holding down a full-time job and heading up the Booster Club. While shows like Desperate Housewives seem to knock the notion of a sexless motherhood on its [hiney], just try wearing one of Terri Hatcher’s low-cut top/ tight jeans combos to your next PTA meeting and just see how many friends you make. ["Sexpert"] Raskin says this asexual mom image can be problematic for the whole family.
Ironically, this assertion contradicts all the data offered up in the first half of the article. As demonstrated by all the examples Ferrier supplies, there's no need for Victoria's Secret weapon (you know it just dawned on me that there might be a pun in the name of that store) to get a faithful husband (the subject of the article) interested in intimacy. I don't believe Ferrier or Raskin would assert that "showing off one's merchandise" somehow counters a mother's busy lifestyle or that the fires that need stoking (or ought to be stoked) are also going to be at a PTA meeting.


Also at tennesseefree.com

Monday, June 02, 2008

It takes a family . . .

. . . unless you're Murphy Brown (wink-wink). In this WSJ article (which was linked in this NRO piece) about the Religious Left, was this profound point about the importance of "collectivism" on the family level. Too bad that the Religious Left eschews traditional definitions of family:
"Religious left clerics also ignore the evidence that much poverty in prosperous, opportunity-rich America results from dysfunctional—dare one call it 'sinful'?—behavior. Around two-thirds of poor families today are single-parent households, largely dependent on government subsidies and headed by women with little education. The entry-level, low-wage work for which these mothers are qualified makes it hard to support large families. And the time they must devote to raising their kids makes it hard to climb the economic ladder. Poverty is increasingly about the irresponsible decision to have children out of wedlock. In many inner city communities where poverty is entrenched, 75% of all children are now born out of wedlock."

Monday, October 01, 2007

Favorite movie clips

Here's one of my favorite movie clips (stumbled upon while wasting time youtubing this evening).

If you haven't seen the movie, I recommend it; but this is the scene where Richard Gere's character ("Mr. Clark") realizes that he has been finding "life" in something other than his most important thing in his life . . . his relationship with his wife. In this case, it's ballroom dancing (which Clark has secretly taken up as a hobby), but it can be a lot of things, even "good" things, that distract us.



What's your favorite movie clip, and why?