I just read an interesting report
(here) about the firing of Isaiah Washington--an actor on
Grey's Anatomy which I've never seen (sorry). The reason it's interesting is because it appears we have a new word that can't be spoken . . . the "F" word . . . "Faggot." Reading this report I discovered that it is now simply the "F" word (apparently we're going to have to find another term for the original "F" word) based on the fact that Washington is being accused of "using" it twice because, when he denied using the word in an interview, he now stands accused of using the word TWICE. At least that's how it appears from the reports I'm reading. This leads me to another post that I started some time back. I'm not going to edit it to make it more current because (a) it will take too much time and (b) the delay in posting it is pertinent . . . this is a touchy subject and I really hesitate to potentially offend my friends of the African-American race.
I really hesitated to blog on this issue, but I had to comment on the subject after hearing a news report today (6/5/07) that said someone had been suspended from their job as a teacher for "using the 'n' word as part of a lesson plan" dealing with racism.
For the record, I committed about eight years ago to a black friend that I would not allow to go unchallenged any person's use of the "the n-word" in my presence. That "promise" came about in a discussion about racism and my coming to the realization that--even if I'm not racist, I need to be assertive in beating back racial prejudice. In sum, it will be difficult to diminish racism and the racial divide in our country (and respective communities) if we don't influence those around us away from racism.
Along those lines, I am glad to say that I rarely hear or observe racist attitudes or expressions. Some of that, I hope, is based on whom I associate with by choice. But I won't deny that any perception on my part that racism isn't rampant in our culture is potentially skewed based on the message/values I exhibit--basically, I hope and perceive that people are not comfortable being bigoted in front of me. Hopefully, they at least worry that I will not agree and "fear" that I might confront them about it. I don't look for ways to bring up religion or politics in any given interaction with others, but I generally am not afraid to share an opinion which often betrays my beliefs/values. As far as I can remember, I've only heard the "n-word" a handful of times over these eight years, and each time the person who used it appropriately back-pedaled when I pointed out my disagreement.
So, with all the preliminary qualifications out of the way, I need to say that I think we need to drop the code word for "nigger." Wow, that is uncomfortable to write, and since I don't ever use the word, it would be even more uncomfortable to say.
To be clear, I don't think that the word should ever be used, except in a clinical sense (such as when discussing Linguistics or something along those lines), in the same way that I think profanity should not be used. But I've always thought that using code for "nigger" actually enhances the word's destructive power. If we're eager to run a hurtful or negative word out of our language, isn't it better to both discourage its use and take the sting out of it? Isn't this the Left's argument about purported Puritanical views on sex (or about ANY subject, frankly)? That making something taboo is counter-productive?
Though I don't want to hear the word and don't want my children to hear it, in a radio news report (or in a classroom discussion intended to discourage bigotry) it seems kind of silly (not to mention counter-productive) to tip toe around the word. This silliness is amplified further when you consider the word's frequent use in the hip-hop or urban segment of African-American culture.
I guess the same can all be said about the "F" word, though I'm not as concerned about that, because I don't view behavior-based identities like homosexuality as off-limits as race. While I don't use the term and think it is needlessly hurtful, I'm inclined to say it may go with the territory.